“Failing forward” what does that mean?
Part 5: Failing Forward
If we want to fail forward, we must have the proper response to rejection. Great leaders and high-achievers do not base their self-worth on their performance. They have a healthy self-image that’s not determined or dictated by external events. Great leaders reject the rejection of others.
We also do not point fingers at others. Sadly when people fail or lose, they often blame others. By pointing fingers, they sink into a victim mentality and cede their fate to outsiders. The blame game robs us from learning from our failures and alienates others as we refuse to take responsibility for our own mistakes. Great leaders don’t point fingers.
If we want to fail forward, we have to see failure as temporary. People who personalize failure see it as a hole they’re permanently stuck in, but high-achievers see any problem as temporary. One mindset wallows in failure; the other learns and looks forward to success. By putting mistakes into proper perspective, high-achievers are able to see that failure is not fatal or final.
We must also learn to set realistic expectations. Unrealistic goals can lead to failure. If I haven’t exercised for five years, then going to a gym twice a week is a better goal than running in next month’s marathon. Some people also insensibly expect to be perfect. However, everyone fails, so accept/expect setbacks and emotionally prepare to deal with them. May God help all of us to learn more and more how to fail forward.
Written by: John Weaver