“Failing forward” what does that mean?
Part 1: “Failing forward” what does that mean?
I thought no one likes to fail. Growing up I hated to lose. I feared failure. When I lost, it did not bring out the best in me. Often, after failing a test of losing a game, I would get angry or mad or want to give up or quit. I misunderstood failure. Therefore, most of my life I was unprepared for failure. The same was true for disappointments and losses in life. Disappointments and losses would devastate me, crush me and at times overwhelm me. The hurt or pain caused by disappointments or losses would also cause me to react or respond in ways that were negative and destructive.
The wrong perception of failure or loss and the wrong response to failure or loss causes us to believe, think, say and do things that are negative and regretful. For example, if we have the wrong view of failure, then we deny it, we lie about it, we blame others, we hurt others, or we take it so personally that we experience unnecessary stress, depression or even become suicidal.
Failure is a common-universal experience. Loss is part of life, just as death is. Life here on earth involves various forms of loss. In the normal development of life, failure is unavoidable because none of us are perfect. However, failure is not final. Our disappointments, failures, losses and mistakes do not have to define us. They are not permanent markers.
So, what if we learn to accept failure and loss as a friend? What if we see these common life experiences as lessons to learn and stepping stones to success?
Remember: Thoughts become actions. Actions become habits. Habits become our destiny.
Written by: John Weaver (Sources: Global Priority Principles & John C. Maxwell).